Psychic ability does however come with a large responsibility, as does magick. As such, it is important to meditate on what your ethical guidelines are. Where do you draw the line? For me, it mainly boils down to the idea of respect. Here are some of my ethics and guidelines that I use to help give an idea. By honoring the integrity of your readings, you are honoring the integrity and quality of your psychic abilities, which helps them to stay open and flowing.
First and foremost, it is crucial that we become clear psychics and understand the importance of this power in changing people’s lives. As a professional psychic, the responsibility of this ability didn’t really sink in until I had a client return saying that everything I said turned out to be true and that she had left her husband and was taking the leaps of faith that the reading suggested. Ensuring that you are always in a state of accuracy is important whenever delivering any important messages.
Can you imagine if I was wrong and she made all those life decisions? I once had a client who was receiving readings from a well-known psychic witch in the area for many years. At the end of my reading with her she stated that the other reader was usually wrong, but had told her to rekindle her relationship with her ex, even though the client was hesitant. So she followed the psychic’s advice and the relationship didn’t last as the man started getting abusive. After they broke up the man started stalking, harassing and threatening her. I’m not relaying this to talk down about other psychics or to make myself sound better, but to illustrate the tremendous responsibility that comes with doing readings. This means that you will give one hundred and ten percent to every reading that you give. You must always try to do your best.
Likewise, how we deliver the information is just as important. One must understand that an accurate psychic reading can be a huge disservice if guidance isn’t given on how to remedy the situation and there is no tact. I had a client once and in the reading I saw her father, who seemed to be in good health passing away within the year. The woman had a somewhat estranged relationship with him. Keeping in mind the importance of using tact, I delivered the information in the most beneficial way possible. Instead of saying “I see your father getting an illness within this year and a strong possibility of him passing” I took a moment and worded it as empowering advice. I told her that her father was coming to mind and that a difficult time was approaching. I suggested that it would be extremely beneficial for her and for him to reach out to him and try to re-establish that relationship and mend what damage could be mended. I stressed the importance of doing it this year.
I never told her that her father was going to die. If I had done so, she may have had a breakdown, obsessed over it or dismissed it and thus ignore everything else in the reading. Even worse, she could have blamed me for his passing. Never underestimate the ability for people to blame the witch; especially if you’re an openly practicing witch and even more so if they are grieving a death. A few months later I received an email from the client telling me that her father had passed and that she had understood my reading. She thanked me for helping her to mend things with her father before his passing and also told me that without my psychic insight, she would have been totally blindsided by his illness and eventual passing.
Honesty and integrity are extremely important with psychic readings. Dishonesty disrespects our psychic abilities, others and us. Being completely honest with the information that you’re receiving keeps not only the integrity of your name, but also shuts down our psychic ability – which is reliant on our quality of communication as a channel of the energetic information. We should never tell someone what they want to hear just because they want to hear it – however, we can help by focusing on the most beneficial paths to take to achieve a desired result.
It is important to keep in mind as well, that we are not here to prove psychic ability or convert anyone to our spirituality. Respecting a client also means respecting where they are on their spiritual path. It is helpful to have knowledge of other religions and spiritual paths, so that you can use their vocabulary and terms for concepts. This allows for a clearer communication, where they understand what you’re relaying while also helping them to feel comfortable – especially if they come from a religion or spirituality that demonizes psychic ability or witchcraft. This doesn’t mean that you have to pretend to be something you’re not or believe something that you don’t. What this means is that by understanding their cosmology and beliefs you can use it to help find common ground for what you’re receiving when communicating information. There is no point in arguing the differences between an angel and a spirit guide to someone who only believes in angels. They both play the role of messengers on one level, so there’s the common ground there. Neither angels nor spirit guides will be upset that they were “wrongly identified”, especially if the message they bear has been delivered.
Only offer extra services after the reading that you feel will be beneficial and respect their free will to say “no” to them. You may offer healing, crystals, candles, spells or meditations only if you believe that it is truly what they need and is for their highest good. You must also keep in mind that psychic readings and other magickal services are never a substitute for legal advice, medical advice, psychiatric advice or financial advice, but rather complimentary.
Hold your tongue and don’t speak ill of other psychics, especially to clients. No one will think more of you by you talking poorly of others in your field. Doing this will take you out of your heart and out of alignment with your Higher Self, which will negatively effect your readings. Your work and accuracy will speak for itself. Those who talk badly about the psychic ability of others are not confident or secure within their own psychic ability.
Silence is golden. Confidentiality should be upheld at all times. Psychic readings can be extremely intimate. A friend of mine likens it to a mix of a confessional booth, a psychiatry office and life coach office all in one. The only times this rule should be broken is if the person has given you permission to do so, or they are going to be or already are hurting themselves or others. If you do talk about readings for the purposes of illustrating educational information on psychic ability, as I am doing, it is important that crucial information that would identify them are completely stripped and changed and only the relevant parts of the reading are discussed.
You may be tempted to spy on others, read others or you may have a client who asks you to spy on other people. Respecting the privacy of others is important. Sometimes this can’t be avoided in certain circumstances and it is up to you to discern if you should relay the information or not. I recommend always checking in with your Higher Self to double-check. These circumstances come up if someone is cheating on the client, especially if they’re doing so with unprotected sex or if someone was conspiring against them – this then becomes a very important message to relay – one that could save their lives in some circumstances. With this type of information you should always double and triple check to make sure that you’re receiving the information clearly. I had a client once ask me if her child was going to grow up gay. I had to tell her that there was absolutely no way I was going to tell her that, because in the end that isn’t my information to give or share with anyone but rather her child’s.
Another principle that I try to live by when it comes to psychic ability is to always come from a place of loving service and non-judgment. Having compassion for the human condition is monumental when providing psychic services. I try to stay in a state of consciousness where I am providing service to help them wherever they are in their life. We all make mistakes, we all have our demons and we all have hard times. Staying humble and remembering that keeps us from causing harm by projecting our own biases upon the person and their situations. It would be helpful to remember that there are always at least two sides to a story; despite whatever a client may tell you. I have had countless times when someone comes to me for a reading with relationship problems and then later that day or a few days later the other partner comes in for a reading and I realize that they’re in the same relationship in the middle of the reading. It’s important to treat every person who comes to you with the same integrity and non-judgment despite whatever someone else has told you.
I also never read for more than one person at a time and do not allow others to sit in on readings, even if the client gives permission. You never know what is going to come up in a reading. I have had countless readings with infidelity issues and on rare occasion have had women who were being emotionally abused by their husbands – and none of that could be explored and healed with them in the room. This doesn’t mean every relationship reading will be like this, but it’s always a safety caution and a confidentiality measure that I do.
Lastly, most psychics don’t often discuss this, but not everyone connects. There have been a few instances where someone has sat in front of me for a reading and absolutely nothing comes through. I then turn to my tarot cards and the cards look just like playing cards instead of having all the psychic information flowing out of them like normally. It’s extremely rare but happens to almost every psychic at some time. It’s important to be upfront and honest with your client, explain that you aren’t feeling a connection and guide them to either get a refund or recommend another reader that you think might be able to help them. Remember that your biggest motive should always be to genuinely help the client, and sometimes you need to recognize that you aren’t the best fit to give them the help or guidance that they seek.